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I gave in to the creamy crack ….. PSYYYYYCHHH!!!!

10 Apr

Haha I bet some of you believed me too (you know you’ve thought about it at least once or twice, going back to those relaxed days…NEVER NEVER NEVER AGAIN!)

Ok and I’m back! Had a few things going on…laptop broke,  got an IPAD on Christmas however it turned into a “babe I got this for you but I really wanted it for myself….” (essentially I don’t use it & don’t know how to that well), and we had a special surprise on new years eve…(we’ll talk more about that later)!

Anyhoo…with a lot of new things going on though I hadn’t been doing too much to my hair, make-up, clothes…I didn’t let myself go…no, but just haven’t put much time into my hair especially. So, I FINALLY went to Bliss Elements and got my hair done by the fabulous Laree!

They washed, conditioned, sat under the steamer (heard that’s an excellent thing to do on a regular basis), trimmed (cut off 3 inches actually…my hair grows faster at the nape of my neck than other places so it was much longer there [thank you vitamins] than it was on the sides so she evened it out) and flat ironed my hair! Great salon, great FREE snacks and excellent stylist!

I haven’t had my hair straightened in about a year and a half, I forgot what to do with it when I got home but she reminded me. So, here’s some of the styles I’ve been wearing (I’ll explain a few of them in detail later) enjoy!

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Response to “We will not lose our love, our marriage, OVER HAIR”

25 Oct

I had a completely different post that I was going to work on today and then I read this article on curlynikki.com: “We will not lose our love, our marriage, OVER HAIR”

Summary/Highlights: 

-married 5+ years

-pregnant – 5 months now – with…second child

-been natural almost 1 year

-husband calls and tells her they need to talk then says this:

” “WE NEED TO SPLIT UP.” Huh? What? Where is this coming from? Instant flood of tears and hyperventilating.

He never wanted me to go natural. He doesn’t like “nappy” hair. He likes straight hair. He felt that I had totally ignored his feelings by going natural in the first place, but the fact that I’ve stayed natural, despite his disdain, is even worse. It doesn’t matter that everyone else around us likes my hair. He is my husband and his opinion should matter most. When he married me I had long, straight hair. He’s not attracted to me anymore because of my hair, and therefore he felt that the best solution was to split up, instead of being disgusted with the sight of me daily. But if I straighten my hair (it doesn’t have to be a relaxer), then everything will be ok and go back to normal. Blah, blah, blah.”

-She writes out her feelings & questions for him:

“…Are you willing to give up our love, sex, family, home, future plans… all because of my hair?! NO, NEVER.

My response was: Then I cannot, WILL NOT get a chemical relaxer. So what is your REAL problem?

His response was: Well, it’s just that all the “different” styles you have been doing have been “nappy” styles. Can you please do some straight styles, and do them more often?

Of course! Why didn’t you say that in the first place boy?!

Ever since then, we’ve been back in love like usual. He touches my “nappy” hair and tells me I’m beautiful. And I still haven’t done a straight style yet, although I do plan to keep my promise – to prevent another childish rant.

Conclusion: Turns out, he just did a really horrible job of expressing his feelings. And I did a really horrible job of acknowledging his feelings. We will not lose our love, our marriage, our life together… OVER HAIR.”

My response/reaction: So my 1st response to this was, “what kind of man is he…” I don’t know a man that is THAT interested in their woman’s hair to actually split up their marriage?!?! Are you kidding me?!  She concluded that he did a bad job expressing his feelings…however, I think the root of his problem is that he has control issues and if that is the case, she needs to be careful.  A controlling man can turn into something ugly very quickly.  I’m glad she wrote out her feelings/questions (that’s an excellent thing to do so that you don’t just GO OFF) and I’m glad they worked it out.  We definitely have to take a deeper look at what we said when we took those marriage vows to our spouse before God, our family & friends.  Marriage isn’t a joke and OPEN COMMUNICATION is key to any situation.  We can not be so quick to just run away from a situation because we don’t “like” it.  Lastly, if you have children, remember that you are the example that they see everyday and they are learning every second by your actions on how to love & care for a spouse so PLEASE show them the best example that you can be!

Have you experienced a break-up or negativity from a spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend because of your hair?

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Pain, Stench & The Sounds Of Our Hair…ahhh the memories!

14 Oct

        

My husband and I were talking about this in the car, (shout out to *Peaches* still running strong since ’03)

  • He said, “…you know you got a good shape up when there are scabs around your head the next day.” “That’s a good one right there, look I’m bleeding!”

LOL!  Why do guys really come out of the barber shop with a scab shape up like that’s cute…smh.  Barbers, I know you have to have sharp blades in your clippers, but not razor blades!  Ease up on the forcefulness when you cut please.

  • I said, “…I remember being scared of the sound and feeling the grease popping on my scalp.  Or feeling the heat from the hot comb near my ear when getting my hair straightened.”

Why did they torture us like this?!? Grease popping on your head like you’re in a frying pan.  The utter fear that you wouldn’t be able to keep still long enough to not get burned on your ears by the hot comb!  Hair time was epic in our household; my brother and dad would always leave the house when it was time to do hair because they knew it was going to be an ordeal!  Tender headed, crying, momma’s arms too tired to finish blow drying…it was all just a big mess sometimes.

  • My friend Imhotep confessed, “I don’t like the way perms smell, especially in the club.”

LOL, I died laughing at this because I know exactly what he means.  You got a fresh perm the day before a party and the next night at the “sweat box” a.k.a. party, you’re dancing  a little too hard and then you start to smell that Lye in the air…those chemicals and “ooo I better not sweat my perm out, I just got this done yesterday!!!”. LOL, goodness, that stuff used to run my life! And don’t let the creamy crack drip down your forehead…lol. OR you run your fingers through your ‘bone-straight’ relaxed hair and stop at a speed bump, “is that a scab on my scalp?!” Yep, burned again…smh.

Ronnie remembers, “…getting my nappy hair combed with the smallest, fine tooth comb ever before church on Sunday. No water, no conditioner, no detangler, just dry naps poppin’ & breaking all the teeth off that fine tooth comb.”

Our parents just did the same things their parents did with their hair…they did’t know any better.

So, the next time you walk past that salon and smell those awful chemicals, see that broken down, 2 teeth left in that teeny tiny black comb and only 1 tooth left on the comb from your blow-dryer.  Or you’re next to that girl in the club with the white dripping down her neck and you see ol’ boy scoping you out from across the way with his scabby shape-up…remember the times and laugh in the joy of the freedom of your natural hair!  Be glad that you may have been there and definitely, “done that” and are now free from the LYE! 🙂

Ahhh the memories!

What memories do you have from “hair time” growing up?

 

IDHHC Update: Doing well with moisturizing each night & sealing ends, drinking water, exercise, still have the 2 strands in. Still need to get more fruits & veggies though; gotta get groceries this weekend (or ‘make groceries’ as we say back at home; lol!) LATER!
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Case of the Shady Hair Salon…!

23 Sep
   

Last night a good friend of mine who has been natural for YEARS sent me a text message:

Thu, Sep 22, 2011 8:34pm “Word to the wise…if you ever go to the Dominicans [to get a blow out]…take your own shampoo and conditioner…I definitely think I’ve been had!”


Thu, Sep 22, 2011 8:35pm “I just washed out my blow out that I got Sat. and my curls are w/o a doubt MUCH looser than when I went in! BUT my hair is softer so that’s a bonus 🙂 “

Thu, Sep 22, 2011 8:36pm “But I’m certain by my new texture/loose curls that they didn’t just use shampoo/condit in my hair!”
Of course I’m freaking out & had a million & 1 questions for her:
Did they put a relaxer in her hair? What did they do? Why didn’t she ask more questions? This a crime! Can she sue the salon?
So, this is what happened:

D: “It cost $28. This is my first time I’ve had…[a Dominican blow-out on] my hair. They washed, blow dried and flat ironed; no grease was used, only a lil light spray. When I went in, I knew (or thought) I needed a trim…but when the lady was done…my ends were SO sleek and straight, I was surprised! She recommended I get a deep condition, next time (that was probably a code word for PERM, lol!) But my hair was SO shiny and healthy looking I was too hyped and was just like, “alright!” But she will never get the chance [to do her “deep condition”]! Lol I immediately felt and saw a difference in my hair/curls right after my wash tonight. But I AM NOT complaining about how soft it is! :). As long as it doesn’t fall out, I’m good!”

So, basically after getting the blowout, her hair texture was much different than before, “looser curls, softer etc.” while washing & after being blow dried again. This may be just a matter of her having straightened her hair a bit much (she was getting it washed, blow-dried and flat ironed by her regular hair stylist but all summer she did without the flat iron and washed, blow dried & did a rod set), OR maybe they did use some type of texturizer in her hair.  If the answer is the latter…then I would be highly upset.  Who wants to have chemicals, whether light or heavy, put in their hair without them asking for it? I work hard to keep my hair natural and am not about to have to start over because someone thinks this ‘chemical’ will make it easier for her to do MY hair.  My friend had a much better reaction than I probably would have…they would have seen me back in the shop looking at products, ingredients and interrogating everyone! LOL, this is my main issue, when her new growth starts to come in…will it be a totally different texture than the rest of her hair because of this incident? What do you think?

Word to the wise ladies: Not only should you research your products, but ALSO research the salons you go to and ask questions, don’t worry if they seem bothered by it…YOU are the customer.  All of this will help us to KEEP our curls 24seven.



Have you been to a shady hair salon and had a bad experience?

-MrsAshB
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Alternatives to the LYE, Safe OR Not So Much…?

22 Sep

I came across this article recently “Brazilian Blowout is Dangerous, FDA Says”.  The article states, “contain ‘dangerous levels’ of formaldehyde, in spite of its label claim to be ‘Formaldehyde Free.’ ”

“…chemicals that can cause cancer.”

Have you looked at some of the uses of formaldehyde…disinfectant, embalming agent….I’m done. Take a look at the article and you can make up your own mind on this Brazilian Blowout.

I had an “Express Blowout” (I have no idea what exactly that is besides it was supposed to straighten your hair without chemicals; I should have asked more questions) done at a salon once when…they didn’t know what to do with my hair (I won’t say where I went but it was a fancy salon & spa and I was the only one in there with hair like mine…I had a gift card to the place).

Anyhow, I was still in my transitioning phase and she used a bunch of stuff that I didn’t know but I remember the blow dryer and a roller brush going through my hair for what seemed like an hour and the heat kept burning my ears & scalp.  My hair was blowing in the wind afterwards though! LOL.

But seriously, Formaldehyde, cancer causing agents, stuff that can kill you…I’m not down for any of that and if you’ve read my natural hair story you’ll see that this is exactly why I stopped getting relaxers in the 1st place.  We use these chemicals, products, methods, tools on our head and don’t realize what the lasting/adverse effects may be.  I am the type of person where you don’t have to tell me a bunch of times don’t touch the iron because it’s hot…if I see or hear about someone else doing it with bad effects…then IM OUT. It is not for me and I don’t need anymore convincing.

However, I would say to everyone as a word of caution, if you do need more  convincing, then please DO YOUR RESEARCH and see if these things are true or false.

Have you had the Brazilian Blowout, Dominican Blowout, Keratin Straightening system, Mizani straightening system (I have a story on that Mizani product too, my hair was straight but goodness was I scared when I had to wash my hair about 10 times for it to be curly again!) ?

Check out this article on Eco Styler Gel and their findings after researching the ingredients: Natural Is…Informed: A Look at Eco Styler Gel

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